tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965895330670270124.post8386077532905897505..comments2008-10-13T22:39:53.166-04:00Lolahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16860512905157343281noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965895330670270124.post-7066323512723176872008-10-13T22:39:00.000-04:002008-10-13T22:39:00.000-04:00Oh, Pam, you snuck up on me there. I have to say that after this nasty past week or so that just seeing you here brought a huge smile to my face and made me tear up all at the same time. I've missed you round here.<BR/><BR/>Believe it or not, when I wrote this, I was really hoping that you would stop by and read it, because I know you understand more than most of my readers where I'm coming from at least on this post. Thanks for stopping by and making my night.<BR/><BR/>BTW, you looked hot riding that bull!Lolahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07370267947354641941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965895330670270124.post-82432312359644935672008-10-13T22:01:00.000-04:002008-10-13T22:01:00.000-04:00You didn't think you could write it, but you did it wonderfully. I found myself catching my breath a couple of different times while reading it. Great, great, great entry, but sad, sad, sad story. I just love that you knew her first, which made it all different. And that line about how you can't beat the girl who's blowing your son -- lol. She was really lucky you were the one he picked.pamajamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06444975335485780889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965895330670270124.post-43628043232508020602008-10-12T02:01:00.000-04:002008-10-12T02:01:00.000-04:00Great tribute to Ellen. Great post.karmentalhttp://karmental.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965895330670270124.post-33083175278922942512008-10-11T00:35:00.000-04:002008-10-11T00:35:00.000-04:00oh wow girl. That is so incredibly sad. That's gotta be a rough day for you and your husband every year!! I'll bet she did want a do over. I also bet she's your boy's guardian angel every day of his life. xo.Ann(ie)http://www.blogger.com/profile/00671535020245819924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965895330670270124.post-78460583542966990232008-10-10T18:26:00.000-04:002008-10-10T18:26:00.000-04:00What a beautiful tribute to her. She sounds like an interesting soul.Aunt Beckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12146687582842259611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965895330670270124.post-74584328724519930532008-10-09T21:39:00.000-04:002008-10-09T21:39:00.000-04:00You are amazing to write in such a way that really explained how deeply you were connecting with hubbies mom. You mother n law. I know that with all the pictures you have and deep appreciation for life and friendship that you will carry on to your son how amazing and ispirational a grandma can be! Sleep well!RaceyTracehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15561086917963076901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965895330670270124.post-13082158120467816032008-10-09T15:59:00.000-04:002008-10-09T15:59:00.000-04:00Awww, thanks everyone. You guys are the best!Lolahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07370267947354641941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965895330670270124.post-91860265905612964892008-10-09T13:22:00.000-04:002008-10-09T13:22:00.000-04:00You embraced both the good and bad in this special tribute to her, and it is apparent how much you cared about her. I’m sorry that she lost her life at only 52 by the incompetence of some doctor and I’m sorry that she and your son didn’t get to know each other. <BR/><BR/>((Hugs))Employee No. 3699http://www.blogger.com/profile/13023652840187420920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965895330670270124.post-28878854380579037792008-10-09T11:05:00.000-04:002008-10-09T11:05:00.000-04:00Oh wow, Lola...that's a great story. And I think you are a great writer. I got a great picture of Ellen and that's what good writing is about. Having others visualize by what you say.<BR/> Thanks for sharing...Moonspunhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05677007691816836928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965895330670270124.post-86678319499366107312008-10-09T09:24:00.000-04:002008-10-09T09:24:00.000-04:00Tragic, that she died under that particular set of circumstances. Lovely, that you remember her so fondly, and are able to relate her story so clearly. Warts and all. Which is as it should be.LceeLhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13024392628362568010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965895330670270124.post-69201995591394172282008-10-09T07:55:00.000-04:002008-10-09T07:55:00.000-04:00You did well. It's not an easy topic. I think my MIL also died from medical mistakes, and that they let a woman who wasn't in her right mind decide she was going to go home, which sealed her fate. Scary.Heatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18353422618806779674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965895330670270124.post-3666247321475779932008-10-09T06:54:00.000-04:002008-10-09T06:54:00.000-04:00I'm amazed at the incompetence out there. I've seen more than one senseless death...although they all seem senseless sometimeshoneywinehttp://honeywine.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965895330670270124.post-15219090384193402402008-10-09T01:11:00.000-04:002008-10-09T01:11:00.000-04:00that was a beautiful tribute.<BR/><BR/>I am sending you a big hug.apathetic blisshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05536014741841111108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965895330670270124.post-5527486125712101742008-10-09T00:06:00.000-04:002008-10-09T00:06:00.000-04:00Wow, that is quite a story. I am so sorry to hear of her death and what a senseless one yes. It sounds like you had a very endearing relationship with her, good and bad. Either way, what is meant to be is meant to be. At least now she is still in your memory and hopefully will continue to be for your son and husband.Whiney Mommahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13597841997941611602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965895330670270124.post-23386459068356926952008-10-08T23:08:00.000-04:002008-10-08T23:08:00.000-04:00Oh sistergirlfriend, I was late on the uptake today and just read this. I am so so sorry to hear of this sadness in your life. I don't think I have any sage words of wisdoms today except to say that wine and grindahs make everything better!!!<BR/><BR/>kiss kiss,<BR/>meLilSasshttp://omgdgms.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965895330670270124.post-15097278213893088702008-10-08T21:23:00.000-04:002008-10-08T21:23:00.000-04:00This was simply beautiful. I think you did her justice. Thanks for sharing and writing this. I hope, in some small way, this helped you a little bit. Hug your son for her today.jenboglasshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07570171606663745423noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965895330670270124.post-32582473999385926852008-10-08T17:09:00.000-04:002008-10-08T17:09:00.000-04:00I have been sitting here looking at the comment box and can't think of anything to say other than, I am so so sorry that you and your family had to go through that.Kathttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16973125452842612070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965895330670270124.post-23201808598568742182008-10-08T17:04:00.000-04:002008-10-08T17:04:00.000-04:00Magnificent post Lola.<BR/><BR/>You've made me cry! It's an amazing tribute to Ellen. It must be difficult for you to write about something that is obviously still very raw for you.<BR/><BR/>Were you ever able to go after the doctor?scatterbrainhttp://www.splodge-plog.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965895330670270124.post-90471957304010575482008-10-08T16:49:00.000-04:002008-10-08T16:49:00.000-04:00Thanks, guys. The only time I ever dwell on it anymore is Oct. 8th. I don't know why it's the specific date that gets to me. I can look at photos of her, we can talk about her all the time, and it's all good. <BR/><BR/>Every Oct. 8th, though, I get angry.Lolahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07370267947354641941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965895330670270124.post-53330062944348397162008-10-08T16:30:00.000-04:002008-10-08T16:30:00.000-04:00That regret thing. You already know from reading my blog that my grandpa was murdered. I spent how many ever years feeling so guilty because I had thought to call him that very morning. I got busy at work and never did call...and always wondered if my call might have put his schedule off for just a few minutes that would have saved his life. That is not a regret I was going to survive with or...do as Cape Cod Gal says (and she's right)...be able to let the good stuff about him come through in my life. You know me well enough by now to know I believe in nothing and everything all at the same time. What I do believe is that murder is what happened to my grandpa...not me. I did not cause it, it did not happen to me and I was not meant to stop it. End of the story of regret...and onward with doing my part of the deal.mongoliangirlhttp://thecusp.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965895330670270124.post-45300208056465025742008-10-08T16:01:00.000-04:002008-10-08T16:01:00.000-04:00I can't imagine what a tough day this is for you and your husband. Ellen sounds a lot like my mother. She made many mistakes, but I have never doubted her love for me. I am truly sorry that your son didn't get the opportunity to know her.brookeb4http://brookeb4.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965895330670270124.post-7595015854876925512008-10-08T15:42:00.000-04:002008-10-08T15:42:00.000-04:00You can clearly see the love you had (still have) for this woman. I'm sorry she's gone and that you miss her so much.Badass Geekhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01030944236271663794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965895330670270124.post-80580337804413759302008-10-08T15:36:00.000-04:002008-10-08T15:36:00.000-04:00You know what, you have the next best thing....you! You knew her, you cared about her and you will be the one to tell your son about his amazing grandmother. You're keeping her alive. If you love someone, they never really die. They just keep living....in you.Cape Cod Galhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15831159202874959470noreply@blogger.com